Happy International Women’s Day
Tanya aka @ms_honeyandmilk “Co dependancy can be described as using a relationship to fill a bottomless void due to not feeling whole and loved as an individual.’ It’s not the need to feel loved that’s the issue, it’s the inability to love ones self that causes the dysfunction’
You do not exist to depend on anyone. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again you are whole.
When two people come to together in a relationship they must be able to compliment each other. It should be equal and if it’s not then it’s simply not for you.
I’ll be your biggest support, we can grow together, build together. But I’ll also bring my self belief and self worth in the form of my independence - the ability to achieve what ever I want.
As a single person stand strong and follow your life’s purpose. As someone in a relationship do exactly the same. The only difference is you have a companion to share your journey with.
Build an empire on your own or together. One thing I’ve learnt is that once you know your self worth you become unstoppable. Your focus increases and you attract the right people into your life.
To all you strong women out there keep shining!”
#happyinternationalwomensday #equalrights #strongwomen #independentwoman
Follow your dreams
Following your dreams is a way you can create happiness. If only people realised this before they contemplated all the negatives of doing so even if deep down they know it is what will make them happy. When you weigh up the pros & cons of the decision, the pros being you are happy & there is a small chance of success and the cons being: people will not support you, it will be hard, you will have to work hard, you have to be patient, and humble, it will take time to get on your feet, you will fail many times & there is a small chance of success.
We tend to think the cons outweighs the pros but that is far from the case, the fact is, following your dreams will bring happiness and fulfilment because you are aspiring to create your own path in life by doing something you love and are passion about. The result really doesn't matter in the short term because being happy is the key and in the long term that happiness with bring the success because you placed the value in being happy and in that state of peace, you have a competitive advantage. Don't overvalue the result at the beginning and forget you got into this for the love of it and remember that the results don't come straight away, that's not how life works. When it's for the love and you are doing it because it makes you happy, and you fully grasp that concept, you then disrespect failure, are able & willing to put in the work necessary to achieve your goals, you don't let negativity or the opinions of others cloud your judgement and as a result win on an achievement level because before the success came, you won on a macro level/life level because of how the journey made you feel when you took the steps to follow your dreams.
Focusing on Legacy
Last week Friday was a landmark day for me personally as it was my first public speaking engagement, which came at a bit of a surprise especially as the brand is just over a year old. I knew eventually there would come a point where I will do talks and interviews. It was a great learning experience especially as I'm naturally an intervert and quite. I was super nervous about speaking to a group of 17 year old students. I'm not a shy person, more the quietly confident type, I just don't like being the centre of attention, hence why I like that I don't have to be the face of the brand but I understand that people want to know the person behind the brand and accept that. I find it super appealing that Phil Knight, the founder of Nike probably doesn't get noticed much in public yet everyone wears the brand he created.
It was great doing the talk & workshop with the students, it is definitely a highlight of 2017, the fact the students were inspired by my journey is very humbling and a reminder to myself to always share my experiences as it can potentially be helpful to others and bring them value, even if it buts me in an uncomfortable position (hopefully I will get used to public speaking the more I do it). It was an honour to part of it all and share the stage with other great young entrepreneurs who are where I aspire to be.
For the talk I spoke about legacy, breakdown why I focus on legacy and why young people who aspire to build something should because it emphasises focusing on what you want to be remembered for, thinking long term and your end goal. Making your daily decisions with your vision in mind, which will help you stay motivated and dedicated because the process is difficult and can be overwhelming but you have to remember why you do it and what you are aspiring to build. Legacy is about perspective, seeing what life is really about and finding your purpose.
The day was a great experience in which I get a bit of insight into what it's like being 17 in 2017. These kids are very self aware and trying to find themselves and their purpose a lot earlier then when I was that age a decade ago. In the social media era it shows you what people around the world are doing and achieving which can put pressure on you to achieve when your youth is your biggest asset and you have time. It's important not to get too affective by the perceptions online and instead focus on finding yourself and your purpose. Focusing on legacy allows you to see the bigger picture and realise that this is a marathon and not to get dragged into short term behaviour, instead make decisions based on your end goal. Legacy.....